I am with you there. I myself spent way too much time stuck on various textbooks without benefit of intelligent help.
This type of query is not really resolvable. I saw questions like this before, a typical one being "Why cannot I do this?". A productive discussion would be "I am trying to understand this theorem, but am stuck here.". As has been mentioned earlier (I believe by
@stapel) that this forum is no substitute -- but can be a useful complement -- for a regular class. We simply don't have the bandwidth to teach, only to help with learning.
This is a typical misunderstanding. There are only
finite sums, while "infinite sums" are defined through limits.
I more correct statement would be that there is no (finite) limit. When we say that something "sums up to infinity" we mean that the some will grow beyond any (finite) number. But before using informal phrases like "sums up to infinity" or "equals infinity" it is important to understand that they actually stand for something defined formally. You are much less likely to come to wrong conclusions if you first reformulate your hypothesis in formal terms, then see if it checks out using formal axioms and theorems. BTW, good textbooks often have counter-examples to hypotheses which seem intuitively right but are actually wrong.
I wish you success in your studies, and we will be happy to help if/when you run into more specific, theory-founded question.
P.S. I don't want to add to your confusion, but felt necessary to mention that unlike "infinite sums" there is a formal definition for infinite unions, just like the one you started this thread with.