If [imath]\mathcal{A}=\{\{a_1\},\{a_1,a_2\}\}~\&~\mathcal{B}=\{\{b_1\},\{b_1,b_2\}\}[/imath] then [imath]a_1\notin \mathcal{A}~\&~b_1\notin \mathcal{B}[/imath].
But [imath]\{a_1\}\in\mathcal{A}~\&~\{a_1,a_2\}\in\mathcal{A}[/imath] so if we know that [imath]\mathcal{A}=\mathcal{B}[/imath].
Then it must be true that [imath]\{a_1\}\in\mathcal{B}~\&~\{a_1,a_2\}\in\mathcal{B}[/imath]. Do you follow that?
Knowing that [imath]\mathcal{B}=\{\{b_1\},\{b_1,b_2\}\}[/imath] that means [imath]\{a_1\}=\{b_1\}\text{ or }\{a_1\}=\{b_1,b_2\}[/imath]
Using both of those can you show that [imath]a_1=b_1~\&~a_2=b_2~?[/imath]
Whoever wrote this problem is getting you ready for the definition of ordered-pairs.