Again, it will be helpful if we can focus on just one of the two parts of the FTC at a time, rather than trying to look at the whole concept at once. That's why I asked several specific questions, which you have not answered.
Here is Stewart's version of the FTC, showing the two parts I referred to:

I'll start with the first part.
First, it's important to recognize that there are
two different functions here; g(x) is a function obtained as the definite integral (from 0 to some variable point x) of the function f in the picture
@fresh_42 showed:

So f(x) is the red curve, and g(x) is the green area. We want to see that f(x) is the derivative of g(x).
(Similarly, the second part involves two different functions, here called f and F, where f is defined as the derivative of F.)
You write as if there were one function whose derivative and integral we were looking at. That may be part of your difficulty:
But the rate of change [of g] doesn't give an idea of the height of that slice [of f], only the change in height. So how do you compute area [under f] when you don't know the actual height [of f]?
Anyway, I find the first part very easy to understand intuitively. Look at that picture, and think of it as a graph of f, where we are finding the area under it from 0 to a variable value x. Call this area g(x). In the picture, imagine that we've just increased the right endpoint from x to x + Δx. That added one rectangle to the area (approximately); its width is Δx, and its height (approximately) is f(x); so the change in area, Δg(x) = g(x+Δx) - g(x), is approximately f(x)Δx (height times width).

So the
rate of change of area as we increase x (the upper limit of integration) is Δg(x)/Δx = f(x). Taking a very small delta, this says that dg(x)/dx = f(x), which is what the first part of the FTC says!
The second part can be easily derived from this fact, but I'll hold off on that.